Friday, May 21, 2010

On My Own

For the most part, someone who's always with somebody else doesn't grow personally as much as someone who's on their own a lot.

And with that being said, I want to say thank you for having to make a decision of parting ways with my then best friend some 8 years ago. I've naturally become more of a loner since, and even though it wasn't easy at first, it allowed me a chance to really open up to the world. I'm not going to get into the details of this mess of a friendship, but let's just say it could be compared to being in an abusive relationship. Thank you, Y., for being in my life, and thank you for making me let go of you too.

8 comments:

  1. It's always a good feeling to be able to be released from the shackles of an abusive relationship... it's a learning experience. And glad that you have moved on. Have a great weekend Julia! xoxo

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  2. i agree, i think it's essential - especially between the ages of 15 and 30 - to really have the chance to grow on your own and discover who you are without the influence of someone else. especially if it's a relationship that probably won't last.

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  3. GREAT BLOG! :)

    I like the positive vibe.


    xx

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  4. i learned it unrealistic to grow withsomeone; we all grow differently and change. but thats what makes us strong and independant :)

    www.yellowscarff.blogspot.com

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  5. ..the first 2 lines are so true ..I remember myself back at school ..we was 2 friends , doing , going ..just everything together ..and time back I remember myself saying ' I will never do nothing without my friend ' : ) how silly , but it was about 15 years ago ..he he he ..we still good friends , you know , one of them childhood friendships , families know each other etc .. , but we are changed now , just like you said - you opening to the world ..before it was almost like relationships 'we'..but she is still one of my best friends and so much memories what we share ..

    P.S ..That's really nice post from you to your friend ..I bet she miss you ..

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  6. i think it must have been a hard time being separated from your friend....we always getting more wiser when we are alone...but we also all need a good friend....

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  7. I am 100% agree... hum... friends come and go all the time. Real friends would come back one day...otherwise, there is always new friends joining in our life!!! That's so me.. I constantly leave a group and join another but now I think I am more stable!! (w/ kids I guess I can't go nowhere..hahaha.JK!!)

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  8. I'm just now reading this post about being alone more often. I noticed that when I'm in a relationship (as an example), it limits the types of people I interact with and how I interact with them. So being single gives you more options for sure. In the same way, friends obligate your time when you could be out meeting new people or exploring individual curiosities.

    I think overall we see this the same way. Here's to new opportunities, new people, and new adventures :)

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I appreciate you taking the time to connect and share your thoughts, so thank you for your comment! And while you're at it... Why not tell me what you're thankful for today? ;-)